A Gentleman's Guide to a Lady's Heart

How To Pick the Right Girl

Too often I hear my fiance’s friends say “that girl just isn’t right for me” or “she just wasn’t that into me.” When men get in these types of situations it could be because they are just not picking the right girl.

Here are a few things to pay attention to when you are looking for your lady.

• Look at what the girl is wearing. If she is caked with makeup and wearing a short skirt, heels and a dressy top at a casual place, then that could mean that the girl is high maintenance. If that is your type of girl, then great, but be warned that these girls may come off not as friendly as others. 
• Try to see subtle cues that reveal her personality. Look at her purse or backpack and other accessories. For example, a girl’s purse says a lot about her. A purse that is a hipster-like bag or purse from Coach are two different things. 
• Watch how she carries herself. If you see her smiling and being friendly       to others, then that means she is most likely too polite to say anything that would hurt your feelings or discourage you from asking her out. 
• When you first approach her, see how she reacts towards you. If she is smiling and engaging herself, then go for it, and ask her out. However, if she is being polite, but is not interested, then just leave it at that.

GAINESVILLE, Fla. - Two women pose on the runway at Gainesville’s Fashion Week. Which woman would you choose? 

The Do’s and Don’ts of Dating

Here are five do’s and five don’ts for your first date with your lady. 

Do:

1. Be prepared to hold a conversation. Whether you have to think of questions to ask her or talk about yourself, keeping the conversation going is a lot better than sitting in silence. Anything involving movies, music and television shows are always good conversation starters and a great way to learn what you and your date has (or don’t has) in common. 

2. Have somewhat of a plan. Being spontaneous can be fun, but if it’s a Friday or Saturday night and you are planning on going out to a nice dinner, it might be helpful to schedule a backup reservation just to be safe. Also, tell your girl how she should dress for the date, don’t have her break out the little black dress if you are going to a casual restaurant.

3. Know what type of food your date likes and encourage her to order whatever she wants. Many girls feel modest and order a salad or something light on the first date, but don’t let that be the case. Demonstrate to her that she can be comfortable with you and eat that burger that she really wants.   

4. Ask to take her out again if you feel that the date went well. Too often young men will take a woman out, have a great time and just forget to set up a future date night. If you feel like you both enjoyed yourselves, tell her you would like to do this again sometime and go from there.

5. Expect to pay for dinner or whatever you ‘lovebirds’ decide to do throughout the evening. Even though it is 2012, women still expect a man to pick up the check, especially on the first date. 

Don’t: 

1. Be late. Whether you are picking her up or if you are meeting her somewhere, try to be no more than 10 minutes late unless you call her. Once when that 10 minute mark hits, a girl can begin to feel insecure about how important this date really is to you.

2. Forget to compliment your date. Whether you like her hair, her eyes or her dress, tell your lady how great she looks. Giving your date a compliment will put her more at ease and give her that little boost of confidence. Not only that, but you will probably get a compliment in return too.

3. Talk about ex-girlfriends or past relationships. Although this may seem pretty obvious, you would be surprised how often this happens. Girls are sorry that Suzy Q and you didn’t work out, but just bringing up that past shows that you have not moved on. 

4. Be on your cellphone throughout the whole night. Watching someone check his Facebook and text message his friends throughout the night is not an ideal time for anyone. If you are constantly on your phone it can make your date feel like you are not interested in her and you must have better things to do.  

5. Expect a kiss at the end of the night. Remember boys, this is the first date and most women like to take it slow. If you do wind up getting a smooch at the end of the night, it means you must have been reading my blog.

Survey Says…

After conducting a recent poll of 50 women, ranging from the ages of 18 to 50, the statistics have concluded that the number one thing a woman is attracted to in a man is his personality. 

Within the subcategories of a man’s personality, the number one sought after trait is humor. Every girl loves a man that can make her laugh, so try to put yourself out there and if you see the opportunity to reveal your funny side, go for it. 

The poll also revealed that the next two most desired traits in a man are someone who listens and someone who’s intelligent. These are two very important characteristics because, let’s be honest, women want a man who can hold a conversation and provide for them. 

As far as physical appearances are concerned, the most important characteristics women are looking for in a man are a nice face, a good smile, pretty eyes and well-groomed facial hair. 

Many of these physical characteristics sound like an outline of a celebrity, but know that this is not the case. Women find unique characteristics in every man, so even if you feel that you don’t have Johnny Depp’s eyes a woman who loves you will think you are nearly perfect from head to toe. 

In the World of a Single Man

Some men might be able to sweep a woman off her feet with ease, others would not know what to say if a woman approached them. Then there are some men, who know how to “play the game,” while remaining confident, but not cocky.

Josh McGill, a University of Florida student studying Agriculture and Communications, could be considered that man.

“I have been in five actual relationships, and my longest relationship was ten months,” said McGill. 

Josh believes that one of the best ways to become a lady’s man is by putting yourself out there. 

“The way I normally strike up a conversation with a girl I don’t know is by telling a bad joke, a joke you know is bad,” Josh said. “Not dirty, but just slightly inappropriate for someone you don’t really know.”

Although Josh has a fair idea of how to talk to women, he has still not found his dream girl. 

It’s hard to find a girl. When I did find the right girl, it was at an inconvenient time, Josh said. I have found great wives, but there is not a true physical attraction. 

Josh’s advice for guys: 

“If you are feeling nervous about approaching a girl, think to yourself, ‘what is the worst that is going to happen,’ and go from there.” 

“I think that confidence is one the biggest aspects - not cocky, but confident.” 

10 Ways To Be Chivalrous

Chivalry was once considered the male code of ethics during the times when kings and queens ruled the world. In today’s world, chivalry stands for the same premise. 

A man who is chivalrous can easily impress women with his respectful demeanor, his polite ways, and his loyalty. 

This is a guide to give you ten ways you can be chivalrous on a date. 

1. Always greet your date politely, and always compliment her. 

2. Do not only greet her with a compliment, but greet her with flowers.  

3. Open the car door for her anytime you leave or go into your car. 

4. Never disrespect your lady by saying rude or pompous remarks. 

5. When your date is talking to you, listen. 

6. If you see someone who is disrespecting your woman, then show her you will stand up and defend her. This does not mean get in a fight, but just protect your lady’s honor. 

7. When you are officially dating, always hold her hand in public places and give her that surprise kiss that will sweep her off her feet. 

8. Never let the women pay. 

9. Similar to the car door, pull out the chair for your lady. 

10. Finally, do not let an argument reveal your temper. If you and your date are in a dispute, just drop it. There is nothing worse than someone who thinks they are always right. 

Smells, Sounds & Memories Collide

Ever get a whiff of cookies in the oven and imagine when your grandmother used to bake them for you? What about a song that plays on the radio and a funny memory with your best friend dashes through your mind? These are just two minute examples of how sound and smell can be linked to emotional memories. 

Smells and sounds are linked to emotions because the same part of our brain that is partially responsible for our memory storage, is also responsible for our senses, according to researchers from the National Institute of Neuroscience in Turin, Italy.   

What this means for you as a lady’s man…

Try to find a nice bottle of cologne that you enjoy, this could give you the opportunity for other women to get a little whiff and like what they smell. When you do find your woman, buy her roses for your anniversary or a special occasion. Then, for no reason, get her roses again to trigger those happy memories of you two together.

Don’t forget about sounds, too. Pick out a nice song to play during a special moment and whenever she will hear that song, she will think of you. 

Smoking Is a Thing of the Past

Although smoking cigarettes used to be deemed as “cool” when James Dean ruled, smoking is now considered more of a turn-off by girls. 

The Proof: 

The University of Florida is a 100% smoke-free campus. This policy encourages those who do not smoke to continue their healthy habits, and those who do try to quit. 

The college offers “Quit Coaching at Gatorwell,” as well as free and discounted stop smoking medications, according to Gatorwell Health and Promotion Services. 

“Ninety-five percent of students in Gatorwell’s Quit Smoking Program would recommend it to a friend,” according to Gatorwell Health. 

Besides the fact that smoking is bad for you, it also causes bad breath which is a major turn-off for girls.

So there you go, gentlemen. If you attend UF and smoke or know someone who has been trying to quit, you can receive more information about the Gatorwell’s programs at their website:

http://gatorwell.ufsa.ufl.edu/Tobacco.aspx 

Meet Jake and Laura

                                 

Jake Rhodes and Laura Salatas both know what it means to be in love. The couple, who was introduced by mutual friends, has been together for the past year and three months. 

“The first thing I noticed about him [Jake] was his sarcastic sense of humor and his eyes,” Salatas reminisced. 

Rhodes, 19, and Laura, 20, moved together to Gainesville in August to attend school and work. 

“Farah’s On the Avenue, Harry’s Seafood, Bar and Grille and the Farmer’s Market are all places that we like to go out to in Gainesville,” Rhodes said. 

Laura smiled and nodded with agreement.

“The hardest part about moving and adjusting to a new place was the fact that I missed my family and home. Although, it has been great for me and Jake to experience living together and just growing up,” Salatas said.  

Jake’s Advice for Guys: 

“Keep yourself clean, no one likes someone who is dirty.” 

Laura’s Advice for Guys:

“Make a girl laugh, I always liked a guy who could make me laugh. Have a good, confident appearance and be clean. Also, be confident, not cocky, and it will usually work.”

Five Helpful Tips

Guys and girls both know how nerve-racking it can be to talk to the person you like. Whether you have someone in mind or you don’t, these are five fairly basic tips to help you put yourself out there even more.

Here are the Five Things to Keep in Mind:

Don’t be shy. The worst thing you can do is not talk to girls. If you’re in class or even at a party, you shouldn’t be scared to start up a casual conversation. Just remember, you might get turned down, but practice makes perfect.

Go out. Now I don’t mean out to a club or to a “rager,” but restaurants and open-mic nights are two fun places to go with your friends. I know it’s tempting to just stay at home and play Call of Duty, but going out can be worth-while.

Stay classy. Baggy pants, stained shirts and uncombed hair are all possible red flags for failure.Not a lot of women enjoy a man who appears overly pompous either. Your best bet is to be yourself and maintain a respectful and positive demeanor. Ultimately, demonstrate how respectful and intelligent you are.

Little things matter.  Women remember the special moments and the ‘little’ things. From opening the car door to pulling out her chair, these are all ways to show you are a gentleman.

Listen. As you all know, women talk…a lot. It may seem like an undecipherable code at times, but women love to talk about how they feel. If you are out on a date with a girl, actually listen to her that way you can find out what there is and maybe what there isn’t to love.

 

Welcome to My Blog

Hello everyone, and welcome to my blog.

My name is Jewel. I am engaged to a lovely man, and I can’t count how many times his friends ask me “how do I get a girl?” Since I am an avid reader of Cosmopolitan magazine, I thought this blog would be a similar approach in coaching guys on how to get that dream girl.

On this blog you will find tons of advice and tips, fun facts, real-life stories and hopefully enough information to make the women head over heels about you.

If you have any personal questions, feel free to ask those as well. I enjoy hearing from my followers, and I hope this helps all you good guys who can’t seem to find their match…yet. ;)